Happy Christmas, sis! When we were leaving church last night I did the math and figured Santa was probably at your house.....does Santa come in Greece?
Hi guys, I hope you are all having a nice Christmas day... I had my family over for lunch today. I got tired but my pork in the oven came out delicious. Today I realised it has been over a year since I had people over for dinner/lunch etc. I used to love to do that... I love cooking. Anyway, H spent the evening yesterday with us and today too. He left a few hours ago to go to those friends that dont talk to me anymore. The situation is weird. I am all eager for something, he is in a nirvana state. I started saying something and he said "stop nagging". So, I stopped. He gave me my present. A bracelet I dont like at all. He bought it at a shop around the corner. I smiled and said "I see you didnt much effort to it". He got upset and said it's the old usual stuff. I get a present and I complain. He is probably right. What I meant was to subtle for him to "get". Whatever. He hugged and kissed me a couple of times.He liked his present. A shirt from a brand he likes recently that I had noticed. He dresses now more modern than he used to, so I bought him something that fits his new dressing style. I asked how he "feels". He said: it's nice, it's peaceful.(Yeah, dead people are peaceful too).
Anyway, no use repeating the same things all over. Christmas should be filled with love and happiness. I am greatful I have my kids, my family , my home, my friends. Everything else will be fine, eventually. I really need to calm down and face the facts. Love to all, K
Christmas should be filled with love and happiness. I am greatful I have my kids, my family , my home, my friends. Everything else will be fine, eventually.
I feel some echo's of my sitch in your last few post (Be carful what you wish for.... cos you might just get it)
But as I keep telling myself Everything else will be fine, eventually.
Happy Christmas! Glad you had a nice day with your family, I did too..
Who are these friends that dont speak to you!?? And I guess, as you are in 'piecing'.. and he is trying to win you back (he is isnt he?? I'm sure thats what he was tring to do, lol)... then I guess its a little disloyal of him to go to their house. Perhaps he should either take your 'side' or ask them to make friends with you?
Anyway...at least he DID get you a present that wasnt something you plug in/charge up! Are you still going away tommorow? I'm sorry he continues to disapoint..
"Today I realized it has been over a year since I had people over for dinner/lunch etc. I used to love to do that... I love cooking."
As simple as it seems.. we loose sight of things that are important to us. Why did you think about this.. in the midst of all that was going on? There is still something "here" for you to learn. I have had that feeling for a while.. even though I don't believe it.
"He left a few hours ago to go to those friends that dont talk to me anymore."
Do you not want to see them? This is something that will need to be addressed. Not now.. but down the road.
"The situation is weird."
Welcome to piecing.
"I am all eager for something, he is in a nirvana state."
Right there... that is what I have been saying all along!
The goal is the same.. you both just have way different paths chosen. Let "example" it.
You have a job interview. The say they want to hire you. You are all excited. Gung Ho.. even. They call you the next day and say.. well we are rethinking the job. The pay is gonna be less.. but you will have to work harder. You still want the job.. but they can't tell you what will be expected.. or when it will happen.
This is what I "see". This is where you and H are. Human Resources has not "defined" the job yet.
"I started saying something and he said "stop nagging"."
DAM Speak.. "I hear you talking.. but it is not important to me."
Right here you need to listen. Why did he say that? What did you do to make him think you were "nagging"? He is not listening here.. I will assure you.
"So, I stopped. He gave me my present. A bracelet I dont like at all. He bought it at a shop around the corner. I smiled and said "I see you didnt much effort to it". He got upset and said it's the old usual stuff."
Right here is your cycle. Right here.. you just wrote it out.
The word to define in all that.. is "Effort". You are not doing enough! You let me down again! Why don't you understand!
Are you feeling me yet?
Plain and simple.. that was a nasty.. and hurtful comment. He felt it. I will assure you.. this is not who you want to be. Please.. debate this with me.
"I asked how he "feels". He said: it's nice, it's peaceful.(Yeah, dead people are peaceful too)."
He recovers fast. Oh.. he so wants to be with you. I can "see" him fighting for it. Yes.. he is doing it wrong.
So are you.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
Hi Kalni, I'm glad to hear you had a nice Christmas with your family. Since cooking and having family over is something you enjoy doing, you should make it a New Year's resolution to do more of it with your family in 2009 (with or without H).
I hope the rest of your holiday season is great!!!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
