Please re-read my last post slowly and carefully. Most importantly, the main focus to resurrecting your marriage is YOU, not him.
I had to learn the hard way in my situation that I couldn't listen to what my XW says. I simply needed to watch what she does; THAT would tell me what was important to her; what her priorities were on that day. Additionally, I've watched my XW hang out with friends and BFs so much simply because the are NEW and she'll be too busier to think, feel and heal.
To date, my XW still does not trust me, but none of what my XW feels, says or does can be allowed to deter me from DBing to the best of my ability.
Focus on you. Make you the best you possible. Spend some time taking a critical and honest look at who you are and how attractive YOU think you are to hang out with not just for you XH, but for anyone you want to spend time with.
Keep yourself sane. Don't focus on what he says. Also, believe it or not, the OW is competing with YOU, not the other way around. Everything your XH does with OW gets compared to how things used to be with you.
You have a lot of familiarity, love and comfort on your side. I can't say this enough. Focus on you...and read.
Tom
p.s. Merry Christmas.
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07
