Countdown to New Year, and fresh start?

[istherehope]

Hi CL,

Thanks so much for stopping by! I will look at your thread and post more after the holidays. It's nice to meet you too. You're not hijacking at all!

I haven't made it yet though. I just can't emphasize that enough. We are living together again yes, but H isn't wearing his ring, and says that he is still seeing where things are at, still isn't happy etc. It's progression, but it's still limbo land...Yes the ILY meant a lot to me. I hope for another one sometime before January 1st. That's my goal anyway! Congratulations on your ILY! A voicemail ILY is great actually! It's recorded as you said.

Well you've probably read the saying by now about 1 month of work for every year of M, or being together. I am not entirely sure how true this is, but it does seem to be a decent rule of thumb. I got my bomb at the beginning of July, and now we are at the end of December, so about 6 months, and we've been together 7 years. I first became a little more hopeful about 1 month ago. This process does take time, more than you think it will or you want it to. However I don't think this means you have to be separated that whole time, there is the rebuilding and moving back closer to each other again that I think falls into this category of things taking time. All I can say is take every opportunity that you get to show your W that things could be better and different. She won't believe you at first, but she is likely to start lowering her guard after seeing some consistency. Of course I don't know the details of your sitch, but I will read more after the holidays and check in on you then.

Merry Christmas to you and I hope you are doing well today,

ITH