Glam, Well, well, well...miracles do happen! I'm very happy to see that you h put in an appearance. It took a lot for him to come over. Now, he's advised you that he would be in his hole sleeping today.....let him be. One gold star for him!
About your first xh, you know, after what you shared, I'm thinking he may now be in recovery or has been for a while and is reaching out to make amends. I'm sure he realizes he screwed up big time all those years ago and as 25 pointed out, he may be ill or worse dying. But, let's not go there today. I do think it would be interesting to see just what he wants. Nothing says that after the initial contact you would have to stay in touch. That would be between him and your son.
Glam, I'm very happy that Christmas turned around just a bit for you. You were so worried and disappointed, but when you put the disappointment aside, went on w/what you had to do, the man upstairs came through for you and your family. Never doubt him. There are reasons for what he does....maybe to get you to seek assistance elsewhere or make you stronger in the process. I just don't know. But, for whatever the reason, his presence was w/you on Christmas Eve.
I do hope you'll think about contacting your xsil. I think it would be interesting to see just what is going on.
Enjoy your sister's visit. Merry Christmas!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
