Making my own good karma!!

[Silent Chrleader]

OMG, NOW I SEE THE LIGHT!!!!

Sorry, I couldn't resist......

Anyway, I am not in C sessions with H, and right now don't plan to be. The appointments I make are for each of us individually, although H and I sometimes sit in with S17 in his session to work on issues if necessary. H and I have actually both worked to maintain a good communication about the kids and keep them out of "the middle" as much as possible (notwithstanding the inappropriate "buddy" time he was having with S17 in the beginning of our sitch).

H has a very demanding job and he is a complete workaholic, so I have always been the one to make the appointments and give him the schedule. This time I told him I was going to call to make the appointments for January for S17 and I, so did he want me to go ahead and make appointments for him too. At first he said that he could do it, but then he started saying that Tuesdays were better for him.......well, I was on the phone makeing the call while we were on the ferry, so I just said "So what are you saying? Are you sure you don't want me to make the appointments?" So, then he said "Sure, go ahead."

But, you're right, I probably shouldn't have even asked. It should be totally up to him. So, I will not offer in the future.

Another funny thing. About an hour after H left, he called me for no apparent reason. He just asked if S17 had done what he was told, and told me that he had talked to his boss and should get the check for his bonus this Friday (which makes no nevermind to me since we have split the bills up now, so his income is his to manage). He also told me about how his evaluation went, and told me that he is OK with joining the festivities tomorrow at the facility where he works. Then he told me he would call me tomorrow when we were at my Mom's and asked when we would go over there. I was very upbeat and actually chuckling over this a little to myself. When we were in MC up to a week ago, H had agreed to call me once per day (so I wouldn't call him [I know, I'm a schmuck!]) But when he said he was "done" I thought that agreement was at an end. It's been a bone of contention with us. He runs, I chase.....[schmuck, schmuck, schmuck]. But it's funny that he called like this for nothing really.

I know, NO EXPECTATIONS!