{{{Tawnya}}}, You handled that so well - I'm sorry, but there is only so much crap you can take, but I agree with the consensus, most of it probably isn't true.
My W has said the most horrific things to me, and I know she didn't mean them. At the time, she was just angry beyond words.
Even the things she does now, she is suffering from guilt, knowing she is doing wrong, ignoring kids' hurting.
I know it's harder for you with H being in the house, but sheesh, I'm thinking/praying for you!
