In my state there are all kinds of versions of shared custody. Right now I have "primary physical custody" and she visits H 6 nights out of 14 because that is what we worked out. You don't have to abide by "state guidelines" which is usually one night a week and every other weekend, and every other holiday, unless that's what the 2 of you work out--or unless you can't work out anything else. Which may be the case for you, I hope not. But it doesn't have to be an "either-or" proposition. I don't know about the statistics, can't explain that--but you aren't the ordinary dad and the court will see that.

Enjoy your day! And believe me, Sir, your children will remember this always. They will remember the love that is going into your sharing this time with them.


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012