Thanks Snodderly and PH. I will take some photos of S20 today and send them. I will also call ex h's sis. Not so sure about calling ex h, I really don't know what I would say after all these years.

I will also try contacting my h today. I will be kind and loving. If he doesn't want to come over I will let it be.

Thanks for all the advice. This is all so overwhelming for me at the moment.

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"