GG, It's awesome that your H reached out to you. I hope he doesn't think you deliberately ignored his call because he thinks you're mad at him. Maybe you could send him a text message saying Merry Christmas or something....
As for your exH's request, I would do it. You never know - there may be a very good reason for him reaching out to him, e.g. maybe he's finally realized how short life is and that he regrets his wrongdoing, or maybe he's ill and needs to see his son or at least his picture.
Thanks Snodderly and PH. I will take some photos of S20 today and send them. I will also call ex h's sis. Not so sure about calling ex h, I really don't know what I would say after all these years.
I will also try contacting my h today. I will be kind and loving. If he doesn't want to come over I will let it be.
Thanks for all the advice. This is all so overwhelming for me at the moment.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Glam, Can you get a email address for your son's father? That might be better than ringing him up. If you do speak to him, the words will come at the proper time. Do not be afraid of him for he can no longer hurt you or your son.
As for your h, don't offer up an invitation to come over. That may be putting him on the spot. If you call, wish him a very Merry Christmas and let it go. He needs to come to you this time and not the other way around.
Christmas is the time for giving and showing compassion to those who are less fortunate than we are. I suspect both h's are feeling some remorse for what they've done to you and their family. Take the high road Glam and show them that you can be that classy lady in any situation.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
