I know I made a lot of mistakes in my M. I have fixed some and am working on the rest. Even my H commented that I had "turned [my] whole life around in two months" just preceding and following the bomb. That's when that favorite phrase of the MLCer, "too little, too late," got aired.
Regarding the statistics, I actually have a degree in math, and my favorite quote about it is (I think) from Mark Twain: "There are three kinds of lies: Lies, damned lies, and statistics." Regardless of the odds, we are not living anyone else's life. Whether someone else succeeds or fails in their efforts to restore their M does not affect our own except in lessons learned.
"Do. Do. Or do not. There is no 'try'." -- Yoda
Happy whatever-holidays-you-celebrate to all! And may 2009 be better for each of us!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
