I want to wish you all a Merry Christmas, happy holidays, and Peace and Joy in the new year. We can all make a difference, starting today.
BM - I will fight, I won't give up, nor even give up hope. But still I am realistic about my chances. In this day and age, in my state, we have laws that say the father has equal custody rights. Legally there is no favoritism toward mothers. But 90% of custody cases in this state are ruled in favor of the mother. How is that possible? Even accounting for the cultural bias of fathers to be "breadwinners" while mothers are primary caregivers, surely more than 10% of fathers want equal custody of their children after the divorce. Is it 20%? 30%? I don't know. But surely higher than 10%.
This is only possible if there is a strong bias in the courts.
This is what I mean when I say I am realistic. It doesn't mean I will give up. It means I have low expectations. It is a little like being black in the American south in 1955. The law said that people were "equal" but it wasn't really true.
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But forget all that. It is Christmas Eve, one of the best days of the year. Today I am baking a ham, and making a pie, and baking some bread. The kids will be over later. The wife decreed that it is "just another Wednesday" and so did not deign to give me more than a few hours with them. (yes, the judge will hear about this).
Regardless, we are going to have a Christmas celebration. Santa came early to my place, so we will open presents this afternoon. We will have Christmas carols and we will have all the overdose of excitement that comes from the presents.
I am very excited to see them and see their faces.
I called and spoke to friends and family today and it was nice to hear their voices. Things are different this year but I will be making the best of it! !!! ! ! !
