Matilda and Aud, Thanks for reminding me about the importance of Do Something Different rather than stay stuck in the same patterns. I'm good at keeping my composure and being respectful to my W, but tend to stay too long in the same patterns before making needed changes.
Having a puppy has helped me to develop some leadership skills that are applicable to a M. I tend to be a consensus-builder, but there are times when the best way to influence someone else's behavior is to take the lead.
I'm taking the lead regarding the intimacy issue, and called the therapist to re-establish marital therapy.
I'm being proactive about my W's complaints about the housecleaning, and have scheduled maid service for 1/6.
I emailed my W and told her that we can afford to have them come out monthly. My resistance to initiating new services is usually money, so I decided if I take the initiative, I'll have more control over the selection of the service provider.
I contacted a daycare for my puppy, and have begun taking him 2-3X/week to daycare to so that my W will feel less guilty about keeping him home in a cage, and allow her an easier transition home from work, rather than having to babysit a high maintenance puppy.
I cooked a potroast for her over the weekend. I intend to cook a porkroast before I leave for my holiday trip. I bought a crockpot, and intend to prepare a meal weekly, so that my W has something substantial to eat besides crackers, and PB&J, and is less reliant on carry-out or restaurants.
I'm trying to solve the solvable problems, and being more mindful of switching gears when it appears the status quo isn't resolving problems, in addition to maintaining my composure and balance.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
