From what I have read in all of your posts, it seems your wife is a stranger to herself, too. I think that is what causes so much strife for them and then for us. Imagine not recognizing yourself but being able to see that others, loved ones have expectations of you based on how they recognize you. That is how I imagine it. It helps me let go of my expectations.
I spent weeks, if not months telling H I did not recognize him. Then it finally occurred to me that he probably did not recognize himself either.
I get such a sense of strength from you in what you write. Obviously you are a very good writer, but it is more than that. There is a message beyond the words. If it is coming across a bulletin board, I feel pretty sure it is coming across in person. That can only help you, your boys and even your wife.
I like the Peruvian tradition. The Belgian tradition is similar. I have been trying to keep myself distracted, avoiding ghosts of Christmases past (please excuse the blatant plagiarism). Clearly, this Christmas is very different.
