Sounds like a good dinner, I'm really pleased it went well. I think you did really well. I suppose mine is really all about business because my h can't cope with anything else, believe me I would like it to be more. I love that there was affection and that he has a seed of doubt and also that he wanted to spend time with you. These are such good things! I hope you can see all the many positives in your post.
I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and thank you for being such a good support to me.
Hey MrsM! I didnt post, sorry. But yes, I was amazed at what happened!!! Sounds like he does stull have some conflicted feelings for you. I really was gobsmacked at this...
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=He said he didn't know and was unsure about getting D. His body language also showed that he wasn't sure D is what he wants. He said that while he's in Malasia he will have a lot of time to think & to make a decision.
Blimey! You must have been shocked!?? I dont thikn you did anything 'wrong' btw, sounds like yu handled it well, and anyway, you had to take your chances to lay your cards on the table and have a bit of an R talk, seeing as he said he was going to do some thkning in Malaysia...
You know, there are the next in this series of eclipses coming up at end of January and beginning of Feb.. links to the last one at beginning of August.. i hope good things are on the horizon for you, for all of us!
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Hey ((Julia)), Thanks for keeping up on my sitch & giving me support as well. I do rreeally appreicate it
Yes, I see the positives. I'm just trying to stay my middle ground while he decides. I was kinda like you - cuz I didn't ask about personal info & kept my distance that way. About the D papers, he also said you know me - I'm not good at this stuff (meaning doing paperwork type things & following through). Yes, that was my job in the M. Julia, you have a nice Christmas too
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Hey Ali!! Thanks for posting!! Actually, about the D my H only said he didn't know. (His body language did say that as well). I'm not too shocked, because since I didn't get the D papers, I knew he was unsure what he wants. I was more shocked when he 1st filed -because I felt he was sure of it then.
Personally, I think his mum is pushing for this & maybe his family & friends too. He probably thinks how can I face her family & friends (& even my family & friends) if we to get back together. What will they think of me ... her family & friends probably hate me?? They will never like me after everything I've done. And we've been apart so long, how do we even start to get back together. Then there's his BF, Bob - he has to keep driving him around & being his BF (he sees his job depends on it). Still fear is driving my H. I know that he loves me. I think the other is what is driving his decisions. He has to live his own life & do what he wants .... not what others think is best or want him to do.
Have a nice holiday, Ali
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
I had a nice holiday too. A nice 3 hour drive to see my parents, did some thinking so it was good.
Before I left I dropped a gift off at my H's house. I don't know if he was home, didn't want to know & left it by his door. It felt good just to leave it as a surprise. Should I have done it ...... don't know .... but I did. Probably, the only gift he got - so I felt good. Something I would have done in the past even being just friends.
Now, I will leave him a lone & wait to see if he contacts me.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
