I like what you said about letting people take care of things themselves more than you had in the past. I think taking care of things for others is akin to unravelling a knot, don't you? I am the same as you in that regard.
I find that stepping back and letting others handle things for themselves, where I might have stepped in and taken over in the past is very freeing. I am doing it in all of my relationships. I think it happened by accident. I was just to upset by my circumstances and did not have the energy to be so controlling. I will say that is has been a happy accident.
