WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice III

[FaithfulH]

It just boggles the mind that she would piss away all the years we had together looking for happiness, finding nothing but misery and unhappiness, why wouldn't she start looking back....?

LonelyD,
I remember reading in one of the many books I read during our separation that everybody goes through a mid-life crisis of sorts....some of us handle it well by looking at our lives and deciding how to positively change things we don't like.....while others decide to throw everything away and start over. They went on to ask you to think about every major life transition that you may have gone through....graduating from High School....leaving home....getting married....major birthdays (20, 30, etc)....losing a job. In each stage, you can think of somebody who didn't handle the transition well. It is no different with Mid-Life. Your W is struggling with the transition....and THANK GOD...she has a H in you who is providing a safety net for her to walk the tight rope and fall without hurting herself too badly. One day (I think soon) she is going to realize how much love you are showing her!