Hi all just popping in to wish you all a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A BETTER NEW YEAR, for me and son we are out to dinner with the family on christmas day and then the family is coming to us later on in the week, I have to say that it is now 4 days to christmas and no sign of any contact or anything else from ex, last year if you remember he was kicking of about getting presents to son, he went round to my friends and asked them to drop them off, as we had moved and he didnt know where, funny how a card came to the right address, well this year it is just a cheap scruffy card wrote in shocking scribbling writing, sayin HOPE TO SEE YOU SOON, no merry xmas or anything like that, guess it is looking like son wont be getting a present this year either, in fact skank told me his presents for last year are still there in the wardrobe. whatever it must be hitting a little to know you still have last years presents for son and xmas has come round once more, oh well what he hasnt had he wont miss, he as plenty of me and my family. peace and goodwill to you all and have a fantastic time, remember it is the mlcers that are missing out.
Merry Christmas to you too, Mandy. Hope you have a Happy New Year.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
truelove and beingme, thankyou for your wishes and hope you both have a super tremendous time, this is my fourth christmas alone with my son in all this sad mess but we intend to enjoy it come what may. ex's auntie phoned last night to wish us well and during the conversation she asked me if she could say something, she said I could answere or not, so anyhow she went onto say that even though son never got his presents last year ex as still been out and bought presents for him this year and was there any friends of mine that could drop them off, as I said in some earlier posts I feel at a stage now where I could talk and be a friend to ex, as auntie had mentioned including friends in this mess I told her my feelings and she asked if she could pass it on to ex, I told her that if or when he wanted to contact me I would be willing to speak to him regards our son so long as he calls without beer inside him without any ranting and raving and without expectations that I can work black magic and get son to see him, we will see how it goes and keep expectations at zero, she also confided in me that although she agrees he brought all this mess on himself he as been absolutely heartbroken by it all, so he broke my heart he broke sons heart and he broke his own, is it all so bloody necessary, have fun folks, merry christmas to you all.
Mandy, all I can say is you are a much bigger person than I am. I would have told him that he could stick his presents up his arse. As for his little ole heart being broken...... Well.... it wasn't much of a concern to him while he was doing what he was doing to the both of you. Anyway, all the best to you!
Mandy, You are far more better than your ex and his wifey. You are a lady of class and I have to say, your response to auntie was spot on.
Enjoy the holidays w/family and friends, for they are the ones who are there for you these days.
Merry Christmas to you and your son. May the new year be a more promising one for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi all had to have a name change as I couldnt access my account, just to update, after offering my hand of friendship nothing happened, never contacted son or anything to do with xmas at all, oh well its on with life for us, we will continue on the journey with our heads held high, and well ex knows he can contact me if he wishes I will leave alone and let him process the thought, it is up to him, maybe he isnt bothered about his son anymore, well what a lonely old man he is gonna be.
Yes, I agree...he will be a very lonely old man at some point in time. He's the one that lost out on this holiday.
Many of these guys can't deal with holidays and they attempt to put the best foot forward, but become paralyzed with guilt and depression. I think your son's father was looking to you to take the huge leap and contact him. Mandy, you are the strong one here and he's very weak. I also think that's why his wife has been involved in the mix as well. This man is a weak individual all the way around.
I'm sorry he didn't show or contact you and your son, but you know what? You and your son still had a great Christmas and that's all that matters. You are the luckiest woman to have had your son with you over the holidays. Him? He didn't have much of anything.
Many, continue walking forward and keep you head up high. You and your son will have a great 2009.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi all had to have a name change as I couldnt access my account, just to update, after offering my hand of friendship nothing happened, never contacted son or anything to do with xmas at all, oh well its on with life for us, we will continue on the journey with our heads held high, and well ex knows he can contact me if he wishes I will leave alone and let him process the thought, it is up to him, maybe he isnt bothered about his son anymore, well what a lonely old man he is gonna be.
Mandy, the hell with him! These people just think they can hurt everyone for as long as they want and then expect us to do all the repairs after its over. I wouldn't let that guy wipe my shoes.
Snodderley and Braveheart thank you for your replies and Happy New Year to all, I agree ex is the loser in all this, and I personally think that it is his pride shame and guilt that stops him making contact with his son, after all no-one told him he couldnt talk or see his son it was his own doing, anyhow forward for me I have work to do in my pleasant little life, one day he may contact son who knows, not I,
