BBJ, Dan may well be having 2nd thoughts and confusion because he's holding on to what he may loose in terms of money, family, etc. His suicidal feeling are probably also very real. Let's face it many of the LBS here felt this way or probably will feel this way at one time or another while going thru' the pain of separation or D since its not of our choosing. I see him as a sick man given how convoluted his thinking and behavior has been. I think you are doing the right thing by keeping an eye out for him doing something rash as well as taking some action to look out for yourself financially, legally and emotionally - you will potentially be impacted in a BIG way in all these areas. So I think while you have some sanity left getting the accounts and credit cards in order and consulting (not retaining yet) a lawyer is prudent, even if you have to grit your teeth to do it - I wish I had done this myself. I believe he has a right to come and go to the house as he pleases as there is no legal separation in place. Perhaps by God's grace he may agree to get help for himself and also go to MC before its too late - hope for the best but prepare for the worst. When you feel down be with someone or pray.
