Jeff, I'm sitting here saying "yes". Allow her to lead and you are to follow. Encourage her, but do not pressure. Keep the conversations light and fun, just as you did when you were dating. It's the dating and getting acquainted all over again theme. You are doing fantastic! No expectations and you'll be just fine.
Miracles do happen around this time of the year......wishing you a very Merry Christmas and may she begin to wake up from her deep sleep and realize that her prince charming is right there in front of her eyes.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Thanks Guys, this would be the only christmas present I want. I will make sure that there is no pressure. And yes no expectations. I had to call my sister to get the excited feelings out so that I don't show my wife. Posting here and talking to my family has been awesome.
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
Wow Jeff so exciting. Spending the holidays with W. Keep it light and fun and have zero expectations, but make sure you do show that wonderful side of you that your W fell in love with.
I am excited for you!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Yes, It is one day at a time. Now listen, Ian opened my eyes to this.
THINK POSITIVE my friend or your negative thoughts may just burst that bubble that you are so worried about.
You have no reason to be worried, things are going well. Just keep it light and keep doing what your doing. you have done an excellent job at not putting pressure on her. So stop putting pressure on you.
STOP thinking my Brotha! Just be the Jeff!
Don't let this freak you out, but I'm your #1 Fan. Ha Ha!!
So today after I did a little christmas shoping I picked up some of our favorite take out food. We ate it she thanked me for picking it up. We then sat on the couch together and watched some TV. Nice... My W has a scar on her leg that she liked me massaging because it felt good. For some reason I felt comfortable and said How is your scar? She replied do you want to give me a scar rub? I said yes and did.It was nice to do somthing for her.
She was getting frusterated because she couldn't find stuff to put in my stocking. I tried to tell her just have fun with it there is no pressure. I know she was talking to her mother and was saying "what am I doing we are supposed to get separated and we are spending christmas together and doing stockings what was I thinking" I guess she is feeling wierd about all this but I let her lead and she was the one instigating this.
I think I will give her space tommorow because I don't want her to feel pressure, and I don't want to move too fast. Just going with the flow. Looking forward to doing the christmas dinner thing. I got some good little gifts for her stocking. I hope she likes and apprecaites them but either way it was fun shoping no matter how it goes!
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
