You ask a lot of great questions. It seems you would like some Martian solutions, and that is what we do ... we fix stuff, even when it ain't broke. Maybe part of what H is doing, is what men do. He may be trying to fix things he sees as needing his super powers. You on the other hand, see no catastrophe. That in itself may seem to be a problem to him, until he finds some way to understand the differences in Mars-Venus. Being a Martian, I suspect he quickly discounts references to the whole notion that the two don't naturally understand each other.
I don't remember exactly if any of your questions about late night behavior might be addressed in the Mars-Venus InTheBedroom edition ... but there is a lot of good communication stuff in there if you already read the first edition. Otherwise, a lot of assumed concepts get glossed over and missed.
Venutians do want to be put on a pedestal and adored, made to feel more Venutian and less Martian. We like to see you in that role, and get credit for the deal. But when the Martian sees you perform so much of the day or compete in the Martian world, they tend to overlook your natural Venutianess. They need reminding. While it is our nature to want to please the mate, we do need it pounded into us what it is that pleases, as well as offends. Mixing the two is not a one to one ratio.
Oh yes, that Aw-Sh!t rule again. One Aw-Sh!t wipes out a large number of AttaBoys. Oh wait, I mentioned the wrong rule. I meant to use the LoveBank theory. Only that theory focused on how women deduct five of a guy's love deposits from the bank every time he creates a negative transaction. The inevitable ability of a guy to create negative transactions without intending to is certain to result in a negative balance at the love bank soon, unless he learns the importance of making extra unscheduled deposits often, to cover his occasional withdraw.
Uhmmmm ... lost in thoughts, what were your questions again?
Best wishes for a wonderful holiday season to you Frank, 25, Jack, and the many great DBers hanging in there for each other.
