Okay, so I've been divorced since March/April, and seperated since September of 2007. I've managed to move on with my life - the loss of my spouse isn't a daily thing that eats at me anymore.
I'm in grad school, I'm dating a great girl, and things are going fairly well.
But, damned if little things don't pop up now and again that make me miss my ex. Mostly in a nostalgic fashion, I guess most would evaluate it as. But we were one another's first real relationship, and I know there was love there. Why/how she fell out of love with me is something I'll never understand (especially since she "fell" for a friend of ours...who is far less attractive and far lazier than I - but a manipulator).
However, in our six years together there were many, many sweet moments - the kind that are found in any relationship. There was also the good sex and the fact that she was pretty good looking.
These are all things in the past, now, and I don't actively dwell on them anymore.
But they sometimes blindside me. Something - a song, scent, product in a store, whatever - will remind me of her. And I'll miss her. Happy as I am with my new girlfriend, I still get a 'twang' of sadness for what I lost.
I don't want to seem like I'm clinging to my ex.
Granted, it sucks, sucks a LOT that everything around me was shattered. I thought I was in a happy relationship (though, part of that was me lying to myself), with plans for a future. Now I have to start over.
*sigh*
Does anyone here have any suggestions? Help? On how to try and prevent these damn 'flahes' from happening? Whenever they come I redirect myself really fast, but I feel that a 15 months later they should be gone.
