SD...I understand...as long as you realize that there are TWO people here. To her, this was "I'm telling on you".

There are many other ways to do this. This comes across as going behind her back and making HER look like the bad guy when SHE doesn't view it that way. I'm not saying that I support her in any way. I'm just saying that the way you are going about this can be better. Honestly, that letter would have pissed me off too. It's a holier than thou thing.
You know SD, I'm not a super religious person but I believe in G-d and I'm spiritual within. I don't write this line often but you really need to back off your W and let it be handled by G-d.

Stop the emails.

Stop the in-law stuff.

Define your boundaries with W but stop the M talk.

You MUST see that it has continually pushed her farther away.

If you really want to stand for your M....backoff...let her go...pray...move on and make changes...and hope that time and missing you will bring her back.

It won't happen the way you are doing it.

Strength and honor.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;