Just a thought... I find the marriage builders site a bit too much of the "tough love" approach. It wouldn't work in my sitch where I truly feel that I had a role to play in the marriage problems (but NOT in my h turning to ow!) Your sitch may be different.
The boundaries I am trying to set are about what I need for my self-respect, not my judgment of someone's else conduct, however, repugnant I may find it to be.
