For the Guy with Kids and a WW Twenty Two

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D11 called me today very upset. She and D7 were having an argument. D7 was being stubborn and not listening and D11 had tried to pick he up and hurt her.

I had to talk to both of them. I told D7 to go to her room and calm down and I told D11 to go find something to do. We talked for about 10 minutes. I emailed the wife just so that she knew because they were both really upset.

"I just got off the phone about 15 minutes ago. The girls are fighting.
Give me a call when you can."

Didn't get a call and called the girls about an hour later. They were fine and had apologized to each other. D11 said that mom had called already. She also said to me that "mom said that she was in trouble with you because we were fighting". I told her no, I just emailed her so she would know what was going on.

I decided to email the wife again.

"Amanda told me that you told her that I made it sound like you were in trouble with me.

Why? I don't think I wrote anything ugly.

I only wanted to you to call me so that I could tell you what was going on. They were both upset and crying and when Amanda tells me she misses me with out me telling her first, I know something's really wrong. (he said with his nice calm voice, not sarcastic)

IF I WRITE IN ALL CAPS, THEN MAYBE I'M MAD.

Thats why I get confused on your emails. You almost always write in caps. You always SOUND mad when you do that.

But then again.....

lol "

I got sidetracked at work and didn't hit send. I get back to my desk and notice a missed call on my cell from the wife and a VM and then hit send.

I listened to her VM.
She was saying that she talked to the girls and they were fine. "They weren't fist fighting or anything." She said that S14 was in trouble because he went to the mall with out permission and left the girls alone. She says that she still hasn't taken a lunch yet. That she was going to go to the apartment to have lunch with the girls, but it was getting late now and that she'll call me later.

I then sent another email to her.

"As usual, we were trying to contact each other at the same time. I was emailing you and you were calling me.
I got your message.
Hellooooo, I know they weren't fist fighting.
Go eat something. Its already 3."


I call the girls back and check on them. While talking to D11, I ask if D7 has eaten yet. She says that no, because she was going to wait for mom to have lunch with. I tell her that it didn't sound like mom was going to have time to go, so give D7 something to eat. Then the wife calls the apartment while we are talking. D11 takes the call and I wait. She says that her mom said that she IS going over for lunch. I said that they talked for a while.

"Yeah, I know. For a while, mom was just sitting on the phone and then said that she was going to go. I think she is on her way."

I tell them goodbye and remind her to call me tonight.

10 minutes later, the wife calls my cell phone. She says that she was freaking out when I emailed her because of what my email said and then she saw that her mom was calling her cell and that she was at the doctors office. She starts to say that she is going to take the girls some cough medicine and that she heard that D7 hadn't eaten yet, so she is taking them some rotisserie chicken. She was going to rush to the apartment and then come right back to work. I told her she shouldn't be doing that. I ask about what is up with S14. She says that he is in trouble because he asked her last night if he could go to the mall for today.

"I heard him ask me, but I pretended to not hear him."
"What do you mean?"
"I didn't answer him. I pretended like I didn't hear him."
"Why. How come you just couldn't just say 'No'?"
"I don't know. I don't know what I was thinking." she sounded exapsperated. "I called him after I talked to the girls and he said that he tried calling me at work. I've told everyone here that if my kids call, they are to interrupt me. I can't have cell phone calls. None of can, so I go to my locker often and check my phone. No calls on it either."

Then she says, "Hold on, my moms calling me back. I'll call you back."

She calls me back another 15 minutes later.

Her mom is going over to the apartment and stay with the girls until she gets off. I ask if she is talking to her mom again. She says that they reconciled last Saturday. That they had talked.
"My mother is like me and I'm like my mother. When were are embarrassed or something, we just push people away or run away."
"Your mother is not like you, you're like your mother. You are like your mom."
She stayed quiet.
"So...your NOT going to the apartment after all?" I ask.
"I'm turning around right now. I won't make it back in time if I went and I can't be late. I'm already on probation. I just overreacted about the girls and freaked out. You were emailing me, my mom was calling me, S14 went to the mall with out my permission."

I tell her that I know the girls are just tired and that I know they were up until nearly one. She says that she knows, she was up too. That D7 fell asleep with her on the sofa. She was acting funny last night. Like upset.

"I kept asking her what was wrong. I asked her if she missed her dad. I asked if it was Tom."
"What?"
"Tom did a favor for me and he came over last night. He brought me some milk. My milk had expired on the 15th and I hadn't noticed it and I gave some to D7."

I tell her that they are not going to tell her the truth. I stayed quiet for a minute.
"They are not going to tell you how they feel."
I paused again.
"I wish that I could take it all away from them." I say.
"What?" I must have broken up.
"I said that I wish that I could take away this mess from them."
"I know. I have taken all the blame. I've told them that it was my decision. Its my fault."

I just stay quiet.

"Look, I'm at work already. I'll call you later. Ok? I'll call you back later."

I just say goodbye.


What world do I live in?
She is wacky, I swear.

And yes karen, I must be just as crazy to keep letting myself back into it. I WAS doing a good job, I thought.

I just don't understand all the conversation all of the sudden. And why does she want to call me back?

"I've fallen, but I CAN get up!"

I'll just reset and start over again.