I am sorry to hear there is an OM. That definately makes the situation worse. My H doesn't have someone else as of now, not that I know of anyway. He did cheat, as soon as he stated his intentions of wanting a divorce back in Feb, he got involved with someone, but it ended quickly. I think he just needed to justify what he was doing to himself and make it okay in his mind. Now he says he doesn't want anything to do with another woman, that he is too busy with work and that I will see that there is no one involved. I have a tendency to always think the worst b/c of his past. This is also part of why he believes we can't get back together b/c he doesn't think I will be able to get over that and let go. He thinks I will never trust him again and ALWAYS assume the worst. And in all honesty my actions have proven him right.
If I didn't have to fight my kids to get on the computer I would probably be on here way more and use this board more instead of calling my H. Since I am at the stage where I am pretty weak, and I admit that, I need a lot of reinforecement or guidance when making decisions about what to do or not to do.
My kids are always on the computer and I am always having to bump one of them off when I really want to get on, and then I don't like them looking at what I am typing. But the people here have been such a big help. I know going forward they will be what helps me keep my sanity or at least what it left of it.
Have a wonderful week. I am off to my familys tomorrow. I am waiting for some last minute presents to arrive and then I am out of town. Not really looking forward to it, but I will feel better after I get through the next couple of days.
I hope you get to see your kids. Be strong. We are all here if you need us.
