She says that she guesses she'll just be alone the rest of her life. I ask why she says that, and she says "Well Ex couldn't make me happy, you couldn't make me happy and who knows if OM is going to."
I tell her that she needs to find her own happiness.
You're exactly right. She's clearly looking for someone else to make her happy, when she's the only one that can do that for herself. And so if she's not happy, it must be your fault. Eventually it will be Tom's fault. So yeah, I think in the end she might wind up alone and unhappy, realizing she has screwed up a really good thing with you. I really just think all our WAS need major therapy like 3x a week, you know? I think most of our WAS think like that if they think at all. And you got "sucked into" a TWO hour conversation!!! That's your dropping the rope??? Karen
Karen
