I am in the 4th month now. Still going back and forth with saving our marriage or letting go.
I started a thread here about exposing him or not. He sent me some pretty explicit pics on my cell last week and I wanted some feedback on whether or not to send them to OW. I got some response but not as much as I had hoped. Some said expose some said to just walk away. I have not done anything because I wanted to wait until after the D petition is dismissed on 1/1.
I also found out that he got in contact with his first affair partner. So basically he is talking with the first OW, me, and has the second OW believing he is totally in love with her. It is just sickening....it wasn't until I found out he was talking with the first OW that I realized my H truly has a serious problem. I don't know if it is mental or emotional but he needs help for what he is doing.
Part of me wants so badly to expose and send those pics to the second OW not only so she can taste what it feels like but also for him to just stop this behavior. I can't say that it will and it may end all contact with me if I do but he truly has to stop using women like this. Life is not a game and you cannot be abusing people's feelings the way he is. I am sure the first OW thinks she has a chance with him now that he has left me. Then the second OW thinks he is all hers and then he sends me those text msgs wanting me to believe he is still interested in me. It is just plain wrong.
Every day I just pray that God will show me the way. That God will lead me down the right path and that this pain will end.
Taking 5 yrs off my life is not good! But I do believe the only way it does is if we let it.
T2L I am on my third private lesson for salsa dancing! It's so much fun!
Hope I wish you and your family a happy Christmas. Surrounding yourself with your family is wonderful. It will make you feel so much better. I know spending Thanksgiving with family was awesome. As for Christmas, it will be hard for us but we will get through it.
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
