I apologize, I didn't mean to say you were bringing up subject with D3 - just think it's better to ignore. I know for certain W is not sleeping with OM, and it still bothers me, because my kids now have that confusion, etc, in their lives. W gets furious because I tell kids D is wrong, being with someone else while married is wrong, etc. Probably a little harder to reason with 3yo.
Here's the way I look at it - if the choice is to pester, and point out how wrong W is, or go dim, I KNOW for CERTAIN pestering isn't going to accomplish anything. If W has any morals or feelings left, then the going dim is the only thing that will accomplish that. If she takes going dim as an approval of what she's doing, then she is warped, and justifying things to make her behavior OK.
My point is that W is going to do what she wants - if I continue to pester, she'll do it all the more thinking that I'm trying to control her. I have clearly stated my opinion on affairs - she knows how I feel. I have clearly stated my opinion on marriage - she also knows how I feel.
I have ALWAYS been there for her previously, and now I have told her that if she is with OM, regardless of the nature of the relationship, we cannot have any discussions about anything. I'm being pleasant, and have completely dropped all communication with her. I'm in for the long haul, divorce isn't quick!
P.S. In my state, you can actually file in court to have W barred from having any overnight visitors until D is final. Didn't know your marital status?
