"I tried to pull back. You know what he did? He pulled back completely. Stopped the phone calls, came by to see the kids and stayed for a couple of hours etc etc."
That's OK. Seems like we might be a little better off than we are now. I know you are frustrated. Are you pulling your hair out yet?
"He told me on the phone yesterday "I dont want to push you do anything, havent you figured out yet I am always saying yes to you, if you need to stop this, lets stop, if you need a trip take a trip, if you need to take it slower, let's take it slower?". Ohh and he repeated "I know I want to be with you and the kids"."
OK.. so we all agree.. lets take a step back.. stop doing "Work".. and see what happens. Let him find the time to be with the kids and you. Heck post a calendar with the times you have free.. leave it by the door see what happens. Think simple stuff.
"Today he sounded mad. I think he feels I am a lunatic. That I confuse him."
I know.
As far as Christmas.. just keep it simple. Do something like you did when he was going on the trips. Wrap it up and if you are not going to see him.. put it somewhere you know he will see it. Remember.. you can build small feelings.. that will grow. Simple things. Simple minds.. respond.. to simple things. Think Simple!
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
