Breakaway, I don't think it will do anyone any good to try to "imagine" the whys and wherefores of the things that H has done and said. If BG wants her marriage restored it will never happen by harboring anger and bitterness. Only God's total forgiveness will work.
Well, I wasn't really saying I wanted her to spend time imagining it. You took that over literally. My point was just that it is easy for everyone to pile a lot of blame on the OW, in a way making excuses for what H is doing, when he created that sitch.
In no way would I recommend harboring anger or bitterness.
okay, you said H emailed YOU pictures of him and OW????? is that right? and why on earth would have promted him to do that? did you ask him?
on the gifts, I think not doing presents is okay. Are you planning to give a card? I think it would be good to do that
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
BG...hey, you! I hope you are staying at least a little bit warm!!!
I hate that you aren't finished with your Christmas prep either. I have a little more to do tonight, but it's only 52 degrees here so not so bad to get out in!!!
Try not to overstress. Take the trip to AR...you know it means a lot to your MIL, and you could use the time away from home and the adventure.
We can deal with all the other BS in your life after the holiday is over!!!
Love you! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Look me up in the alt....my e-mail and stuff is there....
I've been snowed in for 4 days! That's no biggie to you mid-westerners, but to us in the Pacific Northwest, it's unheard of!! We have the "3 flake rule" here, ya' know? Three flakes and the schools close!!
Hope you are doing OK! ((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
It's Christmas Eve! Good morning little girl (((BG)))
Just wanted to stop by and give you a gentle hug and remind you as you venture thru your busy day that you and your family are loved and in my prayers.
I hope that Santa brings you all that you desire dear BG, because you deserve all that, and much more.
Take good care and know that you are very loved.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
I have an abundance of that stuff stockpiled and its point of intended delivery (in two cases actually) is not receiving any shipments. Reason unknown.
