may be his "one true love"?

[Silver Fox]

Hi Weit,

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders about all this. Thanks for posting on my thread.

We have dogs too but my H has made only a few feeble attempts to help out with them. He's so smitten right now, like a teenager, the rest of the world doesn't exist.

Yet they must both know at some level that as soon as he turned to her, he became unavailable to address any issues in our marriage. It's a flawed basis for them to begin a relationship together and when they encounter their own difficulties, as they inevitably will, it will form an interesting part of the background and context within which they learn about each other.

This is profound and beautiful. (I'm so happy, I just figured out how to use the quote box but don't know if I remember what I did!)

I'll be spending time with relatives over the next few days. May not be posting so much. First time in 20 years that I will not be with H and his family.

Have a great Christmas and try to forget all this rut!