Life is Rough - And Really Hurts!

[Babygirl]

morning namesake, sorry i missed you yesterday, was here hit and miss with kids home. that is a wonderful suprise from your H man i am so jealous lol. glad you two are doing better.
man hope, i am ready to say that to my H, but its a scary thing, she has to be ready for whatever he does, that is the sucky part.
sorry its still snowing there!!
love ya

[1hope]

Thanks BG. Don't waste too much energy on what she is gonna do. Let her worry about you.

You need to do what is the best thing for you. You are the wife. She is just a sinfull, used up, stripper, lmao!

[MT35]

After Christmas I am going to ask him again about his own place, to see what is up with that. I can hear him now say that he is trying to save money for our trip, but I am not going to buy that one. My friend Tiff, says that I need to stop taking his calls and letting him see me at all after the holiday. She thinks within two weeks he would be back. Sometimes I think that, but then when he goes a day without talking to me like Saturday makes me think, maybe not. I can't keep doing this though, I know that. So we will see what happens I guess, and what I can handle!

[1hope]

Can you out tough him MT? I think that Tiff is right. I think that he can occasionally go a day without talking to you because he knows he is going to spend time with you soon.

I know that it would not be easy for you, but if he didn't hear from you and was unsure that he would, I think he would be back. I don't know him of course, but I assume that she does?

[1hope]

MT,

I was also thinking.... you know that I've had a few years of sales training, so you might not want to ask him about his own place...you don't want to reinforce anything in his mind or encourage him about what his living arrangements should be. You might just want to ask him if he has given more thought to his decision.

[MT35]

Thanks Hope, Yeah, Tiff knows him. She called him when all this first started and told him to pull his head out of his a$$. He told her I know I am an idiot. She also told him Shi**y timing as the day he told me was the day after the last day she worked with me, she got a job elsewhere, so that made it even harder for me, she had gone to Branson for 3 days and I couldn't call her and tell her what had happened, because I didn't want to ruin her vacation.

I know it would be hard to not talk to him or see him at all, especially having to tell him when he called me at work that I can't talk. But if it got him to a place where he realized what he is going to lose, it would be worth it. It will be the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but I do believe the time is approaching...unless a Christmas miracle occurs! I do Believe!

[WCW]

1hope, it is so good to read the nice things your H is doing. Wonderful!

mt, when you push the R talk choose your words wisely. Don't suggest anything by asking if he is getting his own place. Instead ask what is his decision. Slight difference but very powerful.

[1hope]

I know it would be hard to not talk to him or see him at all, especially having to tell him when he called me at work that I can't talk. But if it got him to a place where he realized what he is going to lose, it would be worth it. It will be the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but I do believe the time is approaching...unless a Christmas miracle occurs! I do Believe!

You are strong, I know you could do it. It doesn't seem like he has any concept yet of reality. He is still operating with you as his safety net.

I do believe in Christmas miracles! I just got flowers delivered to work from my H!

[MT35]

YEAH Hope, I am so excited for you! I am jumping up and down right now! Ok, people are looking at me, but that is OK! I don't care anymore. That is so great!!!

My H knows I will always be here for him.

[1hope]

Do you remember how we were talking yesterday about wanting back what we used to take for granted?

Do you think he takes your love for granted? Can you think of ways to make him less sure of that? (After Christmas?)


the flowers are very pretty, I will try to put a picture in the alt later. they are white and purple, with Christmas greens and purple and silver glass balls.