I think going dim is more for you than W. Protects you from saying anything hurtful that you can't take back later. Keeeps you from learning more than you want to know.
Nothing you can do. W will do as she pleases. Saying anything is controlling.
Yet - I can't stop. Everytime I learn more about OM from my D3 - I get more needy and R talk. Admittedly I am a failure at this.
Most important is to do what you feel is right and protect your kids - that way you can sleep at night.
If there is any contact with W - it needs to be as pleasant as possible - but I also think you can't merely approve of what she is doing and go along with it.
Me:40 / W:33 / D:3 T:7.5/M:4 D Day: 1/24/08 Legal Separated: 6/12/08 BF who sleeps over: confirmed 11/10/08 Suspect BF pre-dates D Day
