Breakaway, I don't think it will do anyone any good to try to "imagine" the whys and wherefores of the things that H has done and said. If BG wants her marriage restored it will never happen by harboring anger and bitterness. Only God's total forgiveness will work.
Well, I wasn't really saying I wanted her to spend time imagining it. You took that over literally. My point was just that it is easy for everyone to pile a lot of blame on the OW, in a way making excuses for what H is doing, when he created that sitch.
In no way would I recommend harboring anger or bitterness.
