frank...I just caught up on your thread. From the beginning of my own sitch, I've often reflected on the fable The Emperors New Clothes. We see something we want to see when, in reality, it isn't there.
In the DB world, you can stand forever hoping, praying, waiting for the thunderbolt clap and..then...there is our W standing there with a halo over their head standing in that luminescent light...begging us to be forgiven for straying and wishing to be back in our arms.
Then..there is reality (?). Our W's punched out a long time ago.
From the legal standpoint, I would NOT take a laissez-faire attitude and wait for the papers and let the cards fall where they may. I would take an aggressive approach. File against her and hurt her? NO! Protect myself? Absolutely. This is no game and like mentioned above, you'll regret it if YOU are the one asked to leave the house and SHE is in it with the girls. This becomes a business. Don't treat it any differently than getting contractual work for the PC. I recall a cartoon once of two Asian samurai bowing to each other. One was smiling and over 10 feet tall. The other was smiling, was 4 feet tall, but had a pistol behind his back. Don't get caught with your pants down.
I forwarded DC's latest newsletter to you. I think it is powerful and describes the way the 'old frank' would handle this. Many here find the 'alpha male' stuff, well, let's say controversial. However, if you sort thru what you need, I find DC's approach right now the 'right one'.
I applaud your new approach frank. No one likes to put down the anti-DB recommendation in print, but, for now, I think this R is done.
Protect your D's...love them...hug them....
Save yourself. Go back to being the man that kicked my a$$ in last year 12/06..what was that line about letting your cajones hang out? that someone posted above? the bulldog walk....
Time to live your life for you...who cares if she's with dorkelhose.....find your invincible summer...
And one more thing El-franko...would ya answer J3B's dadburn question for gosh sakes?
Strength and honor. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
