K, Tho' I've kept up I get frustrated trying to read you so you must be even more so. You sound almost desperate. That's not Sunshine. Are you depressed? You seem to be driving H away by your words, actions or lack there of. I can tell you that blaming him in your mind and drumming up support for what a bad H he is will not help. You are wasting your time and energy in this negative mode! If you are not careful the MC also goes this route. You insist you are not DBing - that's a statement for people who will never get to piecing let alone be in it. Instead why not try something more creative and constructive instead?
For example, following on FG's words of wisdom ... can you list some actions that you can do that will improve communication with H and meet some of both your needs, even on days you don't see him? Do you know what HIS deepest needs are? Can YOU meet them? Does he have some expectations you maybe don't know of? Find out how he really feels about various things (maybe some of your expectations or areas in which you will not "settle") and honor his feelings. Learn to communicate in a positive way, give your expectations a reality check. What you are doing now only seems to be making matters worse.
