I now understand what you are saying. I see it in real terms. I get it. And yes, sometimes I can't see the forest for the trees.
Thank you for reminding me that there is a huge difference between remaining open to the possibility of reconciliation and the reality of putting MY life in park to everyone's detriment, particularly my own.
Tom
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07