2008 = Crazy Year (Havin Fun @ 21?)

[lost_in_space]

Just had to put this down. I sent it to MIL last week. W and k's are going there for Christmas. Maybe too mushy for some, but it is what it is...


MIL,
Thank you for your message. I was in process of writing you one to let you know of some financial things you may or may not have heard about. I will finish that one later. I have not yet sent the letter to SIL or SIL (fyi - this is the letter re the A).

SIL invited me for Christmas but likely best that I decline - I will respond to her directly. I am toying with going to AZ Christmas afternoon for a few days - my M and sister both have had Christmas day plans and I am fine with that.

I totally agree with you - the kids ARE the most important concern. They never asked to be in this world so they have to be priority 1. There has been so much that has happened that has left me at times sick for them and what they must be feeling. There are tears - from all of us. My opinion, for what its worth, is that the kids are hurting more than they ever let on. I said to W a while back that the kids would adjust, they would cope but they will never be "fine"; my opinion perhaps but something I live with as a reality. They want the tension to stop. The kids and I agree on one thing - this sucks!

There is a lot that has happened this year. It has been a year to forget! You asked me in July to let you know my side of things - you have heard some thus far but that is a conversation that I am certainly willing to have if you like. Whenever that might be.

MIL and FIL, I am truly concerned for W. She mentioned health issues this summer but has never elaborated - she was upset I never followed up after initially inquiring about them. You have noticed differences - the solo travel and the new friends are examples of things that seem so out of character. I certainly do not fully understand and maybe I never will.

Obviously things are on a track I do not like. But I have not yet conceded anything even though there may be nothing left to fight for. I am aware of that. My family means too much to me. And my family includes W.

I understand the tears. Outwardly I am ok - but inside and in private, my heart breaks daily.