SD....you are consumed with anger and understandibly. You need to vent it, here, and start to do what you SHOULD BE DOING....moving on.
None of us like that thought.
None of us enjoy the pain.
None of us find it easy to let go of what 'we used to have'
But you cannot become codependent and hold onto something that is destroying you.
The BF pushed her attraction buttons. What are YOU doing to exceed HIS? Would you want to be with YOU right now if you were HER? I say this NOT to give hope for getting her back but for YOU to see what someone ELSE sees from the outside.
Do you look strong, confidant, leading and enjoying life?
Or...well, ..enuf....
My recommendations? Again...
1) Let go. Grieve the loss of your M. There won't be much left of you if you don't and continue on this path
2) Become more assertive. IF YOUR DAUGHTER IS SEEING YOUR W SLEEP WITH ANOTHER MAN THEN IT IS YOUR REPSONSIBILITY AS HER FATHER TO INTERVENE NOW!!!!!!. Get the N.U.T.S. book. Men intervene and make decisions for the well-being and safety of their children.
3) If your daughter can describe a BF sleeping with your W, then THAT is destructive and personally, I would have made an immediate move to the/a law guardian to have this terminated. You CAN'T stop your W from sleeping with dorkelhoses but you CAN get a court-order that it NOT happen with your D in the house. Get going on this.
I'm sorry SD....I know you now and I care about your sitch. Look at Jeff's post. STOP THIS now. You really need to make a dramatic change in yourself and move forward.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
