A few weeks ago, my kids told me that I was being very cold and distant towards H and I told them that it was because of what he was doing.
They then told me that if I really wanted my marriage back, I need to stop being this way. I admit that at times, I do get miffed and act distant.
Just because a person wrongs us does not mean we should be that way toward them.
I have been at this for awhile and it is true, they know the wrongs they have done and feel the pain that never goes away due to guilt.
Yesterday, I sent H a text and said to him:
For Christmas I am giving you unconditional love and forgiveness.
To some that may seem ridiculous but we have to make changes within ourselves because when anger get in the way, our actions/words usually come thru and then we regret it.
Be kind, love from afar, do not let him bait you, do not bring up his lifestyle...that is his cross to bear.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
