The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Glam, Everything will work out for your sister's arrival. I know that you were counting on your h to pick her up, but maybe it's best that he doesn't since he's gone into the hole again. Glam, please think positive. It will all come together.
As for the gifts, if they are bothering you, put them away until after the holiday and then you can decide what you want to do about them. If they are from your children, I would go ahead and give them to him, but if they are from you, I wouldn't give them to him if he doesn't show up.
Glam, I'm sending you warm and positive thoughts.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
GG, I hope you are able to get you sis from the drop-off place, without too much of a hitch.
I am so sorry your H chose to be away from you and the kids at this time. I think everyone has given you wonderful advice - alot for you to unpack and think about.
Here, I am adding a little more. I just read today's Charlyne Cares and am compelled to share this snippet from it with you: By the way, unless you know everything that God knows, please do not write and tell us, "Nothing is happening in our marriage." The One who makes "toys" is at work, year around, on the opposite side of your mountain of circumstances.
BTW, Bob used "toy" to stand for "thinking of you". I think Bob is right about God always working on the other side, especially if we are asking Him to. Maybe you can ask Him to show you waht is happening on the other side.
I think you have made wonderful progress so don't let this bump in the road slip you up. Always trust in God's control, especially when things/times are rough.
Have a wonderful time with your sister. If you make it a point to just enjoy your time with your sister, the kids will too.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
GG, Try to let go of your H and not even think of him as the solution for this transport issue. Just assume he's hibernating.... or on vacation. Snodderly has a good suggestion - cab service.
That is why I suggested Super Shuttle. They will take people to the doorstep and it is not that expensive considering the weather conditions.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I just talked with sis and she is boarding in Oakland. I asked h to borrow his car, no response. We have it figured out I think. A shuttle will take sis to the train station and then I have someone I called to pick her up and bring to our home.
PH can you send me an e-mail again with your phone # I can't find it. I need some prayer right now. I can't seem to shake this sadness.
I also need to figure out some way to make it to the store to pick up groceries. H was suppose to come by yesterday and help with this, but as you all know he didn't come over.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Glam, I'm glad to see she's boarding the plane. I see you also have someone picking her up from the station. Everything will work out. As for the groceries, do you have a store near by that will deliver what you need? If not, it's time to dig deep and call a friend who can take you to the store. I'm sure that there is someone there who will be more than happy to assist you. It's this time of the year, especially, that people are more inclined to give of their time.....do not be afraid to ask others to assist you. They will be more than happy to do so.
Put your h and his behavior up on a shelf and forget about what he was suppose to do. It's obvious that he can't even help himself during this time. I know it hurts, but you've got to turn your focus on your sister's arrival and getting things done around your home for the holiday.
Glam.....it will all work out.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
or on vacation. Snodderly has a good suggestion - cab service.