Seeing things for what they really are... #52

[istherehope]

Hi Kalni,

I never post but I read daily. I'm not sure I'll be any help here, but I really do find it interesting to read your POV. In my own sitch H says he is trying, though there has been no official recommitment. I feel like I am shouldering the burden but the few times in the past that I have accused him of not trying, he says he's working very hard. I mention this because I think his definition of what it means to work hard is different than mine. This might be an issue of different LLs, or simply an issue with his level of emotional wellness where something that I might not even notice would be a lot of work for him. Just wondering if in your own sitch there might be a bit of the same going on? I know you are in the place where you are attending MC so there "should" be open communication about what kinds of efforts show love and commitment, but it just seems like this is something that is so easy to mess up. Not trying to defend your H or claim that he is doing all he should be, just thinking that maybe he still believes he is doing a lot...

Hope you have lovely holidays in any case and that your time away is refreshing and full of hope,

ITH