Today I went to church and on the way home stopped in to do some grocery shopping where I ran into Coffee Buddy. I haven't seen or spoke to CB for over 8 months but the second I saw her face it was like an electric shock hit me! Whew, my first thought was to just keep going as she didn't seem to notice me as she was very intent on the best before dates on the bread. I then decided to stop and talk with her and not be an ass. After greeting me the first thing she says is "where is your grocery cart? Those bins you're carrying look very heavy" Yup, looking after me again, it's like breathing for that lady! We chatted briefly about our kids and I then ended it and told her I'd let her go and to have a great Xmas. I felt kind of sad heading to the parking lot, it's kind of strange when you run into someone who intimately knows the most painful time of your life and you hers, yet you can only talk about the kids and be nicey nicey to each other. I think I really wanted to give her a hug but I sure as hell didn't! Ah well, it is what it is or what is is or...It was nice to see her though and I still miss her, but that's that...end of story.
Time for venting! Last night I took D14 to the doctor as she was ill for the past few days. When I took her back to her mothers I informed STBX that D had been ill, was feverish and doctor had prescribed antibiotics and cough medicine. I foolishly mentioned that the test she missed that day was rescheduled by the teacher for the next day. STBX says to D "you never told me you were missing a test" I advised D to go to the kitchen and take her pills now and STBX calls out "Well, maybe if you'd wear a scarf like I ask you to, you wouldn't be sick" Ahh, the empathy is so endearing. We then had to leave for D11's school performance, which was a block away and would take about an hour or so. STBX says "I assume D14 is not coming" and I said "she wanted to but she's just not up to it" and STBX says sarcastically "Oh sure, she wants to come". Bitch! So this morning D14 calls me to say she isn't going to school today as she was vomiting during the night and STBX refuses to call the school to report her absence. STBX wanted her to go and write the test despite throwing up and continuing to feel nauseous. I tell you, if that bitch keeps it up in the new year I'm gonna go and suggest to her that D14 come live with me. If it's so friggin difficult to show an ounce of compassion for your own child then the kid shouldn't be there! OK, rant finished.
So what happened in the showdown? Did they both eat you alive?
It's a dangerous thing trying to referee a 14 year old girl and her mother when they go at it. Are you there? We're waiting. What happened? You alive or should we organize the memorial service?
Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
Ah yes,the showdown actually went rather well. STBX was in her "lets ignore the whole thing" frame of mind. I insisted that the three of us sit down and discuss the phone issue options, which we did. STBX did get in a couple of unecessary shots at D14 but on the whole it went well. Afterwards she said to me "I know that yelling and screaming does not help and probably makes things worse, but I'm just so exhausted from work and I've got bills..." I empathized, what else can you do. I knew that was what she was gonna say anyway! We then all went out together to do some Christmas shopping. D14 came in my car because she said "I don't want to be with that woman". We actally had a nice talk during the car ride and I just let D14 blow off steam without correcting, sticking up for mom etc. By the time we arrived at the mall D14 was a happy little camper again. We all had a nice and pleasant afternoon together. I then left to go meet my woman friend and her kids as we planned to catch a movie and dinner together. So I dodged the bullet on that one, Spitfire! Thanks for checking in.
Well, last night Whatis paid the ultimate penalty of fatherhood. My D's both love wrestling (I do not, just to be clear!) and I bought tickets so they could see it live. OMG, this display of idiocy went on for almost five hours! After 2.5 hours I thought it was over and they announced "in 90 seconds we're going live!" I almost pissed my pants! Apparently the "live" portion went another two hours. When security came to take away a drunk lady I wanted to scream "take me instead, she belongs here, I don't" I would have freed Barabbus to get the Hell out of there (sorry Jesus, a man's gotta do what he's gotta do). One Dad turned to me and said "this is like a nightmare that never ends" Yup. Well, the girls loved it (I have no idea why!). So, today I'm going into a wrestling rehab clinic to cleanse my body of all that toxicity. Wish me well. Later Dbers.
Good grief, man! Wrestling!? Gad! Only a really good pater would put up with that!
If I haven't already, Wii! Merry Christmas! Hope the New Year brings you some closure on certain issues.
Take care!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Good grief, man! Wrestling!? Gad! Only a really good pater would put up with that!
If I haven't already, Wii! Merry Christmas! Hope the New Year brings you some closure on certain issues.
Take care!
Yes, wrestling! D11 is the fanatic and she even researches the wrestlers lives on the internet. I think the girls see it as a big real life cartoon, they know no one gets hurt intentionally and they like the good versus evil thing. These are the reasons I allow their interest and took them to the big event. Despite hating it, I must admit they are indeed athletes and have some amazing skills...and I'll never repeat that again to anyone! You have a great Xmas too, Being Me. Thanks to my loyal subject, the former OA, for dropping by also. Keep on laughing and there may be a knighthood in it for ya.
I forgot to mention my Xmas plans! Tomorrow STBX is cooking a Xmas Eve dinner for us and has asked me to come over in the early afternoon to help her cook. The plan is that we will all have dinner together and I will stay over for the night (sleeping in the basement as per my suggestion) and on Xmas day we'll open gifts together and head to my parents for a family time and dinner. Hey, wouldn't it be funny if Whatis gets invited to play Santa and fill STBX's stocking during the night. Yeah... right, but to be honest, who the heck would want to anyway, she's been too darn naughty this year.
Well, Whatis has returned from his Xmas sleepover at STBX's, and the basement sleeping quarters were all I'd dreamed they would be! We all had a wonderful family time. On Xmas eve we decorated and STBX cooked a lovely Turkey dinner for us. She had asked me to come over after lunch to help her with cooking. I arrived at the proper time and was invited to cut up celery and carrots...that's it. WTH she needed me there hours early for was beyond me but, hey, we had a nice time together chatting, chopping and cooking. Yesterday we all went to my parents for another family dinner. Again, it was a really pleasant experience. STBX was pleasant, polite and didn't argue with anyone the entire two days! She was personable and seemed to enjoy my company and trust me, that's a Xmas present in itself! She has also invited me to a get together with a group of our old friends tomorrow. This is a couple of families whom we've known for 18 years and we all vacation together in the summer but they are largely STBX's friends from before we were married. I've decided to go because we always have a good time together and they've been a part of my life forever too! Anyway, all is well in Whatis's world. Btw, Christmas Eve was our 18th wedding anniversary...Happy Belated Anniversary to me!!!
