PM Thread #2

[Can it work]

Hi there PM. Just thought I'd check in on you to see how you were getting on. You seem to be dealing with your sitch amazingly at the moment. When you said,

"I am removing myself from the picture entirely. I refuse to be his scapegoat any longer."

it really upped the huge amount of respect I already have for you. I've found that the more my W does to p**s me off, the less respect I have for her and the more I seriously consider a future without her in my life. I know now that I'd manage just fine without her and that you'd manage just fine without your H but this doesn't mean we're ready to throw in the towel just yet. Don't you feel that you're completely unable to relate to this side of the person you promised to spend the rest of your life with? Who are they? For myself, I really can't understand what's so bad in my W's life that she wants to run away from it. What she has now is a husband who loves her unconditionally, a beautiful baby boy who lights up any room with unbridled cuteness, a gorgeous house and lifetime financial security. She was madly in love with me once so I'm at a loss to understand what happened to change her. In your sitch I'm fairly sure that the OW had a lot to do with leading your H off the path but as I've still found no evidence of any OM with my W I'm still confused. Maybe people do just fall out of love. Is it wrong to think that my W might benefit from time apart so she realises what she may be giving up? I don't want to lose her but while we still live together, very little seems to change from day to day.

Anyway PM, I'm sorry for hijacking your thread. I mainly just came on to wish you and your children the happiest of Christmases and joy in the New Year. I've always fancied an American Christmas. I don't know if they're like the movies but you always seem so much more festive over there than we are here. The British celebrate things in a much more subdued manner. I still hope we all have a good one though, no matter where we celebrate it.

Remember PM, no matter what life is throwing at you, try to find any reason at all to make you smile again. Even if it's only for a moment.