SBT - Sorry that you're here - but you seem to be doing so well already - and also seem to be on the right track...just the fact that your W is willing to work on your M with you - and on herself - puts you in a position that many of us could only hope for, so I'm glad that you're not taking any of the changes you've seen for granted.
Post in other threads - get around and introduce yourself...one of the best ways to learn from this site is to step into other people's threads - even just to offer some quick encouragement or compassion.
Kudos on your response to her change of mind with Hanukkah...at least you got time with D15...that's always precious.