Listen to LonelyD he is right on target with all that he says. I am pretty much at the same point that he is and it has taken me months to get here against all odds and what everyone else says except for one friend that is going through the same thing. His focus and belief is very strong in God as is mine. You can not fix this, it is best to let them take there own road as much as it hurts us to see the one we love go through what we know we could help them avoid if they would listen to us, ironically listening to us is the last thing they want or even think is logical at all to them. So yes it will take them going the wrong way until they hit rock bottom. I know that my wife is struggling from things that I can see or sense from a distance. If you really know your wife you will be able to tell that all is not as good as they make it seem, I will say you start to pick up on these things when you are over your personal shock and are successfully working on yourself that is when you become more acute to just how your wife is doing. If you want to get an inside look as to what is going on in your wife's life and mind right now I would highly recommand reading "The Prodigal's Perspective" and "Finding the Way Home" by Bob Steinkamp from rejoice marriage ministries. Work on your relationship with God like we all need to do for God will reward you. Also know that whatever you ask of the Lord in his name that he will give it to you. Pray for your wife to seek God. Pray for God to send angels and people across her path to minister to her. YOU CAN NOT minister to her for it will drive her further away. You need to pray that God will intervene and work his plan and for your marriage. Love you brother keep your focus on God.
