I hope that you are doing great. I know that things are very turbulent right now. I know that you will go to the Lord and will receive His wise counsel on what you must do.
I hope that you did call some friends tonight to help you through things just as Michelle mentioned to you.
Remember that Dan will pay more attention to the strong BBJ just as has always been the case. Right now he is not willing to meet you on a host of conditions that are must items for you. So it would seem pretty simple that there is just no room in your life for him right now. You will not compromise on the things that you need from him. I know you well enough to know that you are not going to back down.
I hope that things settled down a great deal for you on this night. I will pray fervently for His Spirit to enter into your heart, mind and body. And of course I will be praying for Dan and the kids.