I thought I would report to all that who are interested in my ongoing sitch. As you may have read in the last few posting I have been re-establishing my R/M with my W. As you may already know that my W moved out in June of this year. Since then I have been working very hard on my weak points in my character and attitudes on how my way of doing things impacted my M and making changes within myself. With C, reading a number of books, corresponding with other here, support from my friends/family and the hard work, I think is paying off with great dividends.
My W and I have spent the 7 weekends out of the last 8 together. Each time we are together we become closer. W has started seeing her T and is re considering her decision to pursue a life alone. Each weekend we have created new happier memories. She has become open to re-establishing a new, stronger, happier R with me. I strongly feel that my positive attitude and my 180 change in how I treat her and myself. My C says I have actually changed my core values, which is important to our R/M and myself. W's T has basically said the same thing about what I am doing. The T is encouraging her to relax and enjoy the interaction we are having.
This last weekend we had a wedding to go to out of town. I ask W to make the hotel reservations and told her to set the reservation up anyway she felt comfortable in. She reserved one room with two beds. I sent a dozen roses to the hotel and they were waiting for her when we check-in. She was totally surprised and elated to have them. There were 11 red and 1 white rose. The card read, thinking of you and the one white rose say that you (W) stands out among all others. I also brought a bottle of her favorite wine, two glasses, a CD/CD player of her favorite dancing music, candles and bubble bath. I was able to salvage two hand full of rose pedals to put in her bath.
We stayed in the room all night, and only used one of the 2 beds. She said that she had a great time and enjoyed being with me. She told me that she loved me and she was happy. We got back home Sun. afternoon, but she did leave to go back to her apt. until 8:30 this morning. She will come home for Christmas Eve and is planning to stay until the next Mon.
I think I/we are coming closer to edge of the woods in out R.
I just thought you would like to know that, with hard work, making change and showing that my change is a fact and not just a short time improvement. Has worked for my R/M and me.
