Is this a mid-life crisis?

[Dawn of Hope]

Hi, Beth,
Just a quick note--I am not sure if my H is depressed, but I have been clinically suicidally depressed for almost 30 years, so I can tell you something about it from the other side and give you my opinion on your sitch.

If you were in a normal M relationship, it might be different, but as it is, you really can't do anything about his depression, assuming that he has it. People with depression are not going to get any help for it until they are ready, and you aren't in a position at the moment to significantly influence that. Please understand that it is very normal for a depressed person to believe there is nothing that will help them--that's a natural, "logical" result of depression. The illness itself interferes with the possibility of initiating treatment. Yes, you can DB a depressed person. Just don't get hung up on rapid results.

I need to run off now, but feel free to check my threads if you would like to know more (and leave me a message on my current thread if you have questions or anything)...I have lots in there about my depression.

Hang in there, take care of yourself!!

Peace and blessings,
Dawn