I have been doing so good I dont call him anymore... my thoughts are no longer about him...when I get home after work is when I think about what we used to have but here lately I have been having thoughts of wanting to hurt her!!!!!!!
As in beating the Crap out of her!!!!!!!! she took my life..she stole my husband....and yes this is not all her fault but damn it it makes me so mad.... I think about all the times he lied to me and I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I thought he would never cheat on me again.... and then he does yet again......
And it is with HER!!!!!!!! She had an affair with him 14yrs. ago not just a couple of months more like 2 freaking yrs.
I just want to tell her how I feel I want to make her hurt the way she hurt me....for no reason...the only reason was because she could...
My husband was a very good man and she knew this and she took him like a thief took something that was not her's.
This holiday has been really hard... just last yr at this time he came home for christmas and we had or so I thought we had a very nice time....he really was trying to reconcile but I bet you anything she never stopped calling him...
she knew he was coming into some money...she saw the Harley he had just bought....why not get involved with him again... better than strugglin on your own...
I am a woman of faith but I am getting all kinds of bad thoughts...mostly just wanting to vent at her let her know she destroyed a family... let her kids know she is a homewrecker whore....
I am sorry to be this way in here....but sometimes it is just better to do this in here than to them....
Just send prayers my way...I wont do anything stupid like that just had to get it off my chest
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
First of all, what you are thinking is not going to win you points. You have got to put those thoughts out of your mind. If you do or say anything derogatory about her to your H, it will put him on the defensive and he will stand up for ow and run right back to her.
And I hate to say it but these spouses also are just as much to blame as the ow.
IRMAT: It would help if you post under one thread so all of us can follow what is going on with you. Thanks.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Here's the deal when I spoke to husband last week via internet i asked him if our family could see him at my mom's because my oldest daughter does not want him to step foot in her house....so I asked him if it was ok to see him at my moms and he said that was fine....he wrote how he really did miss everyone and how he couldnt wait to see everyone...
Then he called me a couple of days later to let me know for sure if THEY were coming fo rchristmas for sure and I told him to let me know so I could get his brothers together to see him also and have a dinner at my mom's I asked him to please let me know in advance if he wanted for me to do that.... but I specifically told him to call me and let me know for sure...
he has said nothing so far. he called our daughter today and told her that he would call her when THEY got on the road...
So my questions is do I call him to confirm or at least to let him know whether the dinner is on or not... he hasnt even tried to contact me about it... Am I just suppose to hang on untill HE decides what will happen for xmas...
I guess he thinks I am still just clinging to his every word.... it is just common courtesy to let me know.... I have already made plans to have xmas dinner at my daughters I cant just change them to suit his time or whatever...
this makes me mad.... am I just a doormat he can just step on whenever he feels like it!!! any advise would be nice and just venting... thanks
Last edited by IRMAT; 12/22/0810:12 PM.
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
IRMAT, If I were in your shoes, I would go ahead w/my plans and not worry about him. He's a grown man and he knows how to contact you, your daughter and your mother about dinner.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You know what they say about MLC'ers they dont have a very good memory...I know that is just an excuse on my behalf...but you are right my plans are going on without him ....he should of would of.... could of... but he did neither...
What I think is so funny is that he is so broke now... in just a little over 3 months... that he has to drive here and back
I hate to be this way but he needs to know that he made his bed and now he has to lie in it...
you know he spent over $25000.00 in 3 months... he doesnt work she doesnt work I wonder what he is going to do for money next time he owes me child support...
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
IRMAT, He just might fool you and come up with the money for the child support. You just never know w/them. That's a lot of money to blow in just a few months. He's not hitting bottom yet and it's going to be a while.
Do what you have to do to make the holidays special for you and your family. His memory may not be that good, but trust me, he can and will remember certain things that are important to him at this time. He needs to face the consequences of his actions and he just might meet up with old scrooge before the year is out.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I hope you are right... bout meeting up with scrooge...I dont want any harm to come to him but I would just love for him to come crashing down and see the damage he has done... but yes it will be a long time... I am having a very hard time trying to put it out of my mind...the hardest thing is that he had an affair with her before.... a relationship of 2 yrs...and I never did or say anything to her....
when he saw her again he said "when I saw her again all the old feelings came back" I wish he would of stayed with her back then but instead I have to deal with his affair yet again... but this time it hurts even worse than the first time...she is nothing but a homewrecking whore....who is teachibg her children that it is ok to have affairs with married men and destroy families....
i pray everyday that God will just take these feelings from me I dont want to think about this anymore but it still a very fresh wound.
I hope you and your family have a great Christmas and I pray that we all really do have a happier new Year...
Last edited by IRMAT; 12/23/0804:52 PM.
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
IRMAT, This statement was presented to me twice last week: "Time wounds all heels". It was presented to me by two different mediums. Trust me, God will show him exactly what he's done, but it will be a while before that occurs.
In the meantime, try to enjoy your holiday.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
